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R U OK? Tips for holding a conversation

2017 09 13 RUOK

RU OK? Day is a national day of action dedicated to reminding everyone that any day is the day to ask, “Are you ok?” and support those struggling with life.

Do you ever have the feeling that someone you know or care about isn’t behaving as they normally would? Perhaps they seem out of sorts? More agitated or withdrawn? Or they’re just not themselves. If so, then trust that gut instinct and act on it!

By starting a conversation and commenting on the changes you’ve noticed, you could help that family member, friend or workmate open up. If they say they are not ok, you can follow the below conversation steps to show them they’re supported and help them find strategies to better manage the load. If they are ok, that person will know you’re someone who cares enough to ask. 

 

GETTING READY TO ASK

 

Before you can look out for others, you need to look out for yourself. And that’s ok. If you're not in the right headspace or you don't think you're the right person to have the conversation, try to think of someone else in their support network who could talk to them.

To help you decide whether you’re ready to start a meaningful conversation, ask yourself:

 

AM I READY?

 

AM I PREPARED?

 

PICKED MY MOMENT?

1. ASK R U OK?

IF THEY PUSH BACK

2. LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGEMENT

3. ENCOURAGE ACTION

IF YOU NEED EXPERT HELP

Some conversations are too big for family and friends to take on alone. If someone’s been really low for more than 2 weeks - or is at risk - please contact a professional as soon as you can.

FIND EXPERT HELP >>

 

4. CHECK IN

Remember that all it takes is a conversation using the above four steps which could ultimately change a life!

Always remember that even showing that you genuinely care and concern about someone can make a real difference to them and their life.

Defence employees can access the Mental Health Portal through the Defence Protected Network.

Important numbers and links:

 

Lifeline  - 13 11 14

Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467

Men's Line - 1300 78 99 78

QLife - 1800 184 527

Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800

Emergency & Mental Health Contacts

EAP Contacts

HR Services Team

Reserve Assistance Program (RAP)

SeMPRO - 24/7 confidential service

SeMPRO

  • 1800SeMPRO (1800 736 776)
  • +612 6127 1759 (outside Aust)
  • Text: 0429 600 800 (+61 429 600 800 - outside Australia) 

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Original source: https://www.ruok.org.au/how-to-ask and Department of Defence.